Hi, thank you for coming to visit me at Peaceful Parents, Confident Kids. My name is Kate Russell and I am the mother of two beautiful girls born 13 months apart. My parenting story began nearly three years ago as I welcomed my first daughter into the world, blissfully unaware of the enormous challenge I was about to undertake.
It is a fact of life that when we become a parent we are going to worry, over think things, re-evaluate things over and over and often conclude that we are just not good enough. But this is ok. These feelings are normal and are a sure sign that we are indeed good parents. The mere fact that here we are, trawling the internet for that elusive answer to being the worlds greatest parent must mean that we are doing the best we can for our children.
I believe that from the moment of conception, a little switch is turned on in a parent’s brain. In fact, it is actually more akin to a powerboard of switches. There is the guilt switch, the unconditional-love switch, the anxiety switch, the ambitious switch and the I- really-hope-I-don’t-stuff-this-up switch. If a person already had these switches on, then they go from being on the dim setting to the extremely brightly lit setting.
I don’t believe that there will ever be one answer that will suit all families. I strongly believe that, in parenting, finding the ‘answer’ that resonates most with you is a big step in the right direction. For me, that answer came in the form of RIE parenting. After discovering the philosophies of this parenting style I was and still am amazed at the transformations seen in our household. We went from one of shouting, chaos and turmoil to one of respect, empathy and gentleness in a very short amount of time. RIE or Resources for Infant Educarers truly embodies everything I believe my children need to become physically and emotionally aware and has been responsible for repairing and strengthening the relationship I have with my two dear children.
This blog was set up for me to be able to share some of my stories. Many of these I tell with an open and honest heart in the hope to inspire even just one other person to reflect on their parenting practises and become a more mindful parent. I learned through trial and error and at the expense of my children that it was not good enough to simply ‘wing it’ and go with my instincts. The whole idea that my small children are actually capable, whole beings with their own thoughts, desires and understandings was quite foreign to me and it was clear I was not respecting them as such. Since making this significant shift in my basic view of the children I have been able to work with them through many challenging moments and be the support and guide they have needed me to be at those times.
I strongly believe that it is never too late to change how we parent and have learned that being a conscious and reflective parent will empower my children to grow with confidence and trust in themselves. I look forward to hearing from you all as you also make your own parenting journey. Please don’t hesitate to contact me to ask me anything or just to share a little story of your own. I do love hearing from you!